The other day I followed an online workshop on dealing with emotions. Here are my notes:
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Rest is not a goal. The mind will make it another place it wants to go to.
Do not compare. Not even to yourself.
Every meditation is your first meditation.
It's okay to experience clarity and confusion simultaneously.
Allow yourself to be held
It's about being alive
We are one but not the same
'Don't judge the dinosaur':
It didn't have words
I am what you are
The consciousness in me recognises the consciousness in me
Be a wave, this unique expression of the ocean.
Don't try to purify your inner child.
Allow your grief to be.
Grieving is part of the process of awakening.
Allow your grief to be part of your healing process.
When you're living it, you're living it. You're in the moment, not 'trying to be there'.
If you have intrusive thoughts or a thought that conflicts with an image about yourself ('I'm a very spiritual/social/interesting/loving person.') and you don't want to act on those thoughts: what you push away will gain in power. Allow all of the thoughts and all thoughts about those thoughts to be. It's okay to have loving, 'nice' thoughts. Just that it is okay to have violent, 'bad' thoughts.
Light and dark thoughts both are simply thoughts and both never healed or hurt anyone. Trying to silence our minds, however, can. A thought can say whatever it wants but you don't have to act on in, agree with it, nor fight it. Let it be in the middle of your presence.
'What can I do to get rid of this thought or feeling?' Be aware of it, let it be. Don't judge it. Don't tell it it isn't welcome. It's in your power to just let it be. You'll be disempowering it. It won't feel intrusive anymore.
A thought or a feeling is like a wave
Dalai Lama difference with Hitler: 'I don't act on all of my thoughts.' The sun shines on both good and bad.
Even 'bad' thoughts just want to feel welcome inside you. A thought could never hurt you. Just like feelings they just want to be. They're nothing but a picture your mind made. If we don't allow them to be intrusive they can not be intrusive.
Take away what you know, what you're taught to call 'emptiness', 'loneliness', 'a void'. What do you actually feel in your body? A fluttering in your belly perhaps? We disconnect from that sensation. But why? If you feel it, it can't be 'emptiness' or 'loneliness': what you feel is real and accompanied by other feelings so it's full and not lonely.
Meditation is just noticing. 'Doing things' usually is a way to avoid where you are.
Notice the restlessness, boredom, the urge for chocolate, the yearning to shout at a loved one. Be aware of the craving, stay with the discomfort. Find relief in that.
Be present, don't run. If you allow yourself not to feel trapped, you won't feel the need to escape. If you don't act upon the urge, it will lose its power.
Trying to get rid of violence is the cause. Don't suppres it, don't act upon it. Let it be.
We can't heal the world without healing ourselves.
We can express our anger without lashing out.
Life doesn't care about our image of ourselves.
All there's left is living. Now. From moment till moment.
Surrender to grief. Grieving is just love, coming in waves.
A teacher who tells his pupils he never has negative thoughts simply expresses his fear.
Here's my favourite meditation of all time:
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